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Misadventures at Redemption [Feb. 25th, 2007|11:02 am]
Douglas Spencer
In a friends-locked entry, a friend writes as follows:
    Why is it so difficult? It's only a few words.
    But it's a few words that could change everything - for the worse as easily as for the better. And there's a security and comfort to be found in maintaining the status quo.
As some of you know, I've been trying to build up the courage and find the words for a similar exercise, and the conversation concerned took place last night.

It's difficult, as this friend points out, but it's done now. It wasn't a success, but neither was it a failure, and the status quo has survived with just one significant change: that now she knows how I feel. She didn't run away screaming, she didn't point and laugh, we can still delight in each other's company, and her stated reasons for not taking it further are thoughtful, caring, and sound. For which I thank her.

The French have a proverb, "the more it changes, the samer it gets". I know what they mean. The world today is significantly different from the world yesterday, although nothing has changed.

To the friend I've quoted above: If you can find a way, go for it. If everything changes for the better, that's wonderful and I rejoice with you. And if not, I trust that enough of the status quo survives to maintain your security and comfort at useful levels.
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[User Picture]From: dougs
2007-02-25 10:34 pm (UTC)
Last night was the exception, but that's a curiously accurate portrayal of my usual technique. As usual, Tats exhibits perfect timing.
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[User Picture]From: seph_hazard
2007-03-06 10:46 pm (UTC)
Along a similar vein, I've just seen this and it made me think of you. But in a sweet way, if that makes sense.

Hope you're doing alright, darling. [mwah]
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[User Picture]From: dougs
2007-02-28 11:59 am (UTC)
And today's ...

Again, not quite how it was, but still.
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[User Picture]From: johncoxon
2007-02-25 12:03 pm (UTC)
Of course, it's her loss and she's not good enough for you and all the other supposedly comforting clichés a teenager can trot out for such an entry.

I'd offer virtual hugs, if I wasn't afraid of James Bacon. If I was there you'd be getting real ones.
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[User Picture]From: dougs
2007-02-25 10:37 pm (UTC)
Good man. In fact, her response means that most of the usual clichés don't fit.
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[User Picture]From: johncoxon
2007-02-25 10:52 pm (UTC)
Why, thankyou. Some people have suggested recently that I'm a very good man! :D
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[User Picture]From: seph_hazard
2007-02-25 12:20 pm (UTC)
[snuggles you] [mwah] But you did it. And that's the important thing. [kiss]
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[User Picture]From: dougs
2007-02-25 10:34 pm (UTC)
I did. And I'm pleased I did. And surprised.

See you Thursday? I'll tell you a little about it then.
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[User Picture]From: seph_hazard
2007-02-26 12:35 am (UTC)
Yes, I'll be there :-) It'll be good to talk to you. [mwah]
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[User Picture]From: naxela
2007-02-25 12:23 pm (UTC)
> the conversation concerned took place last night.

Ditto. Went as well can be expected but ...


How many other people are having these conversations about now?
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[User Picture]From: dougs
2007-02-25 10:37 pm (UTC)
There does seem to be rather a glut of this sort of thing at the moment.
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From: ex_the_major316
2007-02-26 07:37 am (UTC)
I think something funny has been put in the beer.

Except that wouldn't explain a lot because I haven't had beer for a few weeks.

Huggles.
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[User Picture]From: captainlucy
2007-02-25 05:43 pm (UTC)
It does take a lot of build up, doesn't it? There's always the fear that just as you start speaking, Mr Brain will suddenly go on holiday and you'll end up sounding like Hugh Grant in Fwaaf, or worse. It's good that you got the courage up to say something, and that it didn't go all pear-shaped on you. :)
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[User Picture]From: dougs
2007-02-25 10:32 pm (UTC)
I was about half-way through the Hugh Grant act, and she interrupted and said "are you asking me out?"
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[User Picture]From: purple_peril
2007-02-26 03:52 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry the result wasn't quite what you'd hoped for but very glad that it wasn't as bad as you had feared.
*hug*
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[User Picture]From: dougs
2007-02-26 03:59 pm (UTC)
So am I, to both. *hug* too, and I'll look forward to seeing you in the summer.
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[User Picture]From: the_magician
2007-02-26 11:07 pm (UTC)
It *was* a transformational weekend wasn't it ...

... not necessarily in directions you want or expect, but still, moving on ...

... and you have both my sympathy, and my applause for taking the step and seeing what happened ...

... my inspiration is (in these cases) the tarot card The Fool. Usually depicted as a happy person on a journey (bundle on stick over back) stepping off a cliff, "unaware" of the drop below ... and the reading of it is usually along the lines of
"he's stepping forward into the future, and who knows, perhaps he'll plummet and get hurt, or perhaps this time he'll fly ... but the important thing is he's taking the step forward with hope and happiness in his heart ... and he'll do the same thing next time and every time because the flying is worth it"

Keep taking that step, for it is only in that position that you can find those mysteries of love and happiness.

Hugs
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