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Timeline of interaction with an idiot. [May. 2nd, 2007|01:03 pm]
Douglas Spencer
25th August 2004: Gmail invites are rare. I have two available, and I'm asked to send one to a friend of a friend. This friend-of-a-friend, of whom I've never heard, thereby joins gmail.

Throughout all of the intervening 979 days: I have no contact at all with this friend-of-a-friend, and that's not a surprise because I have nothing in common with him at all other than the fact that we share a friend in common.

To the best of my knowledge he knows nothing about me -- I certainly know nothing about him.

Yesterday: I get an email notification that he's requested to add me as a friend on Facebook. This email arrives at an email address I don't routinely use, that I never hand out. There's nothing in the invitation to identify the source other than the person's name, a name which is completely unfamiliar to me. If I go to Facebook, I can't do anything (such as looking him up to find out about him) without signing up for the site.

Fortunately I'm good at searching through old emails, and I discover that he's the complete stranger with whom I had a single contact nearly three years ago.

He still knows nothing about me, to the best of my knowledge. However, I now know one crucial piece of extra information about him: He's a tosser, a complete idiot.

There's a new rule in my mail filters referring to "Callum Mark Wright".

Edit: Clearly I'm having a bad day.

[User Picture]From: hawkida
2007-05-02 12:27 pm (UTC)
No, he knows two things about you:

1) You're friends with his friend.
2) You're happy to give out things with perceived value to people who want them without asking for anything in return.

Sound like a decent couple of reasons to consider wanting to build a firmer relationship and that's what sites like Facebook are all about.

I can see why you'd consider this spam-like, but it's just the online equivalent of talking to someone you've never met before at your mate's party. It doesn't mean they're an idiot.
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[User Picture]From: missfairchild
2007-05-02 01:19 pm (UTC)
I think you're being a bit harsh here. He's probably like the majority of people and has one or two email addresses, and it hasn't occurred to him that the address he had for you was some uber sekrit one that must never be passed on.

(Recently, I accidentally sent out Bebo invitations to everyone listed as a contact on a long-defunct email account, including an ex I do not speak to, a couple of people I've had no contact with for several years for a good reason, and my mum. That's the action of an idiot. This bloke is probably just being nice.)
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[User Picture]From: the_magician
2007-05-02 03:21 pm (UTC)
Oh, does that mean I should take you off Bebo then? :-)
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[User Picture]From: missfairchild
2007-05-02 03:26 pm (UTC)
Are you my mummy?
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[User Picture]From: the_magician
2007-05-02 04:46 pm (UTC)
I can be whatever you want me to be
(except on time!)
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[User Picture]From: cdave
2007-05-02 01:26 pm (UTC)
I think he probably took advantage of facebook's "invite everyone in your addressbook" feature, which combined with Gmail's "store every email address you send to" is a silly thing to do.

I don't have a problem with friends of a friend looking me up on facebook. What I do find weird is being invited to a their child's christening.
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[User Picture]From: sarah_mum
2007-05-02 01:33 pm (UTC)
*nice cup of tea*

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From: ex_the_major316
2007-05-02 04:37 pm (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: johncoxon
2007-05-02 04:51 pm (UTC)
Er, yes, he can be a complete idiot, but he was my closest friend for three years... And Facebok does actually add everybody in your address book if you click the wrong button, as I (almost) did when I signed up for the first time. I am tempted to assign this one to either him not realising he had you in his address book or him pressing the wrong button when adding his friends (for instance, me, who was quite happy to receive his friend request).

Go easy on him.
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[User Picture]From: johncoxon
2007-05-02 04:57 pm (UTC)
btw, Facebok is a bit like a South African person, and not a typo at all.
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